In the January 30, 2017 edition of the New York Post, regular contributor, Andrea Peyser states, “there has to be a better way.” In her article, Divorce System Prompts Bitter Couples to Use Kids as Weapons, she traces the court battles of not only rich and famous people like Kelly Rutherford (“Gossip Girl”) and Daniel Giersch, who fought a six-year legal battle over whether their children would live in France or in the United States; Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, who battled over substance abuse charges against Pitt; and Uma Thurman and Arpad Busson, whose eight-day trial included charges of mixing prescription pills with alcohol and addiction to prostitution.
The friend learned that a long court battle over custody of their two children “scarred the boys’ psyches in ways both awful and permanent.” Her friend said, “They absorbed the garbage flowing between their father and me to the point where they both have rage issues. One of them legally changed his last name when he reached adulthood. That’s anger. She came to a bitter realization, the only parties to benefit from protracted power struggles between adults are lawyers. Everyone else is road kill.”
There is a better way and that way is mediation. The process takes you away from the confrontation of lawyer vs lawyer and affords each party the opportunity to develop separation and parenting plans that will be in the best interest of their children. If you must divorce, be wise; save money, reduce frustration and design the best parenting plan for your children through mediation.