A number of my clients have shared with me how helpful our article, Preparing for Mediation, was for them. That article, which was posted four years ago, outlined the major areas that couples need to explore and discuss prior to mediation. A few years ago, we wrote about parenting in our article entitled The Parenting Plan: Avoiding Problems.
In today’s post I want to outline areas that clients may wish to consider as they discuss their own parenting plan prior to mediation. This outline is not intended to be all inclusive nor are all of the ideas presented necessary in all parenting plans. It is an attempt to get parents thinking about how they wish their plan to look and work.
Examine these suggestions and use what you feel will work for you and your children:
- Custody: Sole or Joint Legal Custody – Sole or Joint Physical Custody (See charts below as examples of schedules for joint custody — F=Father, M=Mother)
- Schedule: Weekdays, Weekends, Summers, Alternating periods, Transportation, Pick up/Drop off times.
Samples for Joint Custody Schedule
The above example can easily be changed to the one that follows to
construct a schedule that provides for week-long parenting.
- Holidays: Identify those that you celebrate, Long Weekends, Children’s and Parents’ birthdays.
- Children’s Events and Activities, Teacher Conferences.
- Relationships, Significant Others.
- Choice of schools/Colleges.
As noted earlier, you don’t necessarily need to check all of the boxes listed. Think about a plan that will work for you and your children and use the suggestions that apply. We are always ready to help and support you in your choices.